Is it just me or does 2015 seem really futuristic and far away?
Well, it’s practically here. Time waits for no (hu)man. Per our usual, we are spending some time thinking about the last year and finding ourselves feeling all sorts of things.
This time last year was a really rough spot for us as a couple, as a family, and as residents of Lafayette. It was not good. Tim was away and I was pregnant and Lafayette felt very lonely and disappointing. I cried. A lot.
Since then we have finished renovating a home, had a child, finished grad school, embarked on the terrible twos, sold a house, moved to Bloom, and bought a house. Clearly we have trouble sitting still for long periods.
Which brings me to our theme for the coming year:
I know, you’re probably rolling your eyes. We are not good at slow anything. But this time around we are feeling ready to stay put for a long, long time. Like decades. We bought our house in the woods knowing it was too small and too isolated for the long run, so we always looked at it as an investment. Lafayette was more ambiguous, but it didn’t take long for us to miss B-town like mad. We were careful about our house hunt because we knew it was for good. I won’t lie, it was a lot of pressure for nomads like us.
Knowing what we know now about ourselves, here’s where we’re headed in 2015.
Goal #1: Be an active part of our community
We have actually never felt connected to a community. I mostly didn’t care about this, but it’s something that has become a higher priority in the past year, largely stemming from the loss of the small Bloomington community we had created and left. It feels so right to be back here now, knowing the things we missed once we headed north. We’re hoping we can be more disciplined about our free time and actually do these things this time around.
This year we have the glorious chance to be within walking distance of downtown. We are going to resist spending all of our free time on renovating our old house and actually go to church every week, do movies at Bryan park, play at the park a block from the new house, go to story time at the library, and hit up the bluegrass jams at the farmers market.
Goal #2: Find the Work-Life Balance
Last year was fraught with driving, hormones and doing what we had to do to make things work. This year will be much different, we hope. We are going to attempt to be much better about balancing what we have to do and what we want to do. Bloomington was nationally ranked as one of the best cities in the nation for work-life balance, so maybe it will rub off on us.
Goal #3: Focus on our family
It’s been a recurring struggle for us to get into a routine with fitness, enjoyable family outings, and just general structure with our little family of four. We are hoping this is our year for really hitting our stride with parenting and working and doing what we do in the daily grind. To this end, we will be traveling less this coming year than the previous years. We are committing to staying home for half (!) of the months of 2015. That means we will actually have a weekend routine! The hope is that it will be easier to carve out intentional time for things that nurture us or bring us good vibes.
Three goals is way enough for us. In fact, it’s probably too many on top of trying to make the ol’ Granville house a home in the months to come. But we’re going to try anyway.
Tim and I are staying home to have quiet conversations about the last year. Last year we did this series of questions and loved them. This year we’re going to use the questions below for a jumping off point.
How do you ring in the new year?