It’s been almost two weeks since we brought Maren home and we are all in major adjustment mode! It’s going well, all in all. She is sleeping four to six hours in a stretch at night, is gaining weight like a champ, only cries when hungry, and is so mellow and so sweet. So far, she’s my little dream baby. We already had to put away her newborn sleepers and get out the next size. I’ll be anxious to see what she weighs tomorrow.
I have had a lot of people asking about how Si is adapting to being a big brother. We came home from the hospital to a kid who is about 90% happy and loving and about 10% hideous with kicking, hitting, flopping on the floor in fits, and even biting which were never in the cards before. None of the nasty behavior is happening in correlation to the baby, as far as I can tell. It’s very random and usually just frustration about things like not being able to stay outside for 12 hours at a time or not wanting to close the door to let M sleep in peace. He also stopped sleeping after five awesome months of 12-14 hour nights of uninterrupted sleep. I’ll be honest–I cried about all of it.
Part of it is his age (I recognize these 18 month tactics) and part of it is bad timing for bringing home a new sibling. We’re getting back to normal, but it’s a process that can be frustrating for the grown ups and for him as well and we are by no means functioning without hiccups at this point. It’s getting better by the day and I have a feeling getting back into a routine with just me and the babies will be the best thing at this point.
For the most part, we have a kid who looooves his sister and will ask to “hold” or rub her hair or give her really slobbery kisses. He plays peek a boo with her and helps change diapers and runs to find her when she makes a peep. We had to steer away from patting the baby, which we had practiced, since his pats tend to be a little too enthusiastic. The sleeping is getting a little better, but not back to normal yet. He stirs in the early morning and remembers she’s here and can’t go back to sleep, so a lot of our mornings have been starting before six instead of at eight or nine. Ouch! It would be fine if his bedtime was also moving earlier, but it so isn’t.
We’re being flexible and trying to settle into a new normal. Tim’s back to work tomorrow and I have Maren’s two week well baby check in the morning to which I will take both kiddos. It will be the first solo outing with both of them. I feel like life will become much easier as the summer goes on and Si understands a little more about staying on sidewalks, holding hands, climbing into his own car seat, and other big boy things that are just around the corner. Right now it really still feels like I have two very dependent creatures and I think even waiting just a few more months before having another baby might have been a good choice. You know what they say about hindsight. : )
All in all, life is hectic, the house is messy, and we are all in good spirits and feeling ready to tackle a fun summer with two littles. I am feeling better physically speaking and my baby weight is falling off much faster this time. It’s awesome! I only have ten pounds left of baby weight, and then about ten more to get back to feeling fit. Tim and I are doing a much better job escaping for a few minutes when the grandparents are here this time around with a newborn. It’s nice to feel like we have our mojo back a few weeks in instead of nine months in like last time. We’re tired, but we are doing just fine. We haven’t even resorted to caffeine yet!